Someone I love dearly lost her job! Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, Fact is; she'd been there all this while my butt has been on the labour market and now the most annoying thing is we are both in this quagmire. I am at a loss on how to console her...wish I could make it all go away!
So I stole some words from a Boys 2 Men song I really love, "HOLD ON";

If you just hold on
I swear that everything'll be ok
I know that you are nervous,
baby, give it some time,
things will go your way!

Just when I thought it's all good, a pal hit me up on facebook to tell me that a friend of ours had been kidnapped on his way to Abuja from Lagos. I believe he's going to be okay but I'm shocked at the ransome put on him;8.7 million naira. So what some great thinkers have done is put out an appeal on facebook and other interactive fora to the kidnappers. I join in to in pleading, he has got a wife and kids... haba! for the love of God!

What a day

Being unemployed is getting to be a bore. Don't get me wrong, it feels good to surf the web all day, no boss breathing down your neck and just to be able to take off and see the love of my life when it suits me but it don't pay the bills.
I have consciously worked on my weight loss and at least i'm making some headway in that department. I think I need to get out a bit but I've learnt that few friends like your company if you ain't got a job. I'm not complaining but I'm learning that there's only one person who can be there for you- God!
I feel free...sort of, a friend said it was my time to pass through the fire but it feels like I've been passing through the fire all my life.
Everyday is a revelation...

Ok....

I'm glad to be back. Ever since I lost my job writing has become painfully difficult, I just do enough of it to keep body and soul together. I'm so so tired and I almost gave up but I looked at a little of my work over the time I spent at NEXT and the nostalgic feelings are stronger. I did good, thanks largely to a patient editor, good friends albeit a few and God's unending favour.
Took a trip to Jos, spent a week, I had fun playing basketball and working out. I actually shed a few pounds. I saw pals and talked actually talked to her.
She still makes my heart beat and I do want her to be my wife. How in God's name am i gonna do this. She loves me but can she wait?
Anyways, I am back and I am stronger than ever... God knows.

Oh Yeah

I have been asking myself certain questions 'cos a lots been happening at work and play.
From lousy accidents with bike men to police harassing me for my looks (My hard features belie my soft gentle heart)
I feel pissed that some 'people' can't look you in the eye and tell you the truth.
Anyway friends (enemies too!) Just when I thought I was into a profession that suited my unique personality, someone who I had a lot of faith in starts showing his 'Nigerianness'. It behoves me that a purser can go prancing when his subordinates are finding it hard to cope ...Sorry guys, I am mis-venting but events have me asking myself... why I no stay for my financial sector where I was excelling?
Its great when the king says to his queen,
Lets go a-prancing on the green,
"Its alright" he says, "since we've had our fill,
The workers can continue to till"
For they matter little,
as they are run-O-the -mill!
Nice verse (lousy). Hey I feel better already

Here we go...Again

Greetings! Thats the new romanesque way I've lent to greet from my colleague, T. How have you all been? Plenty gist...Little time.
Anyway let me let you in on whats been happening, bit by bit...
I often have a jocular saying with my close pals when relating a shocking experience, we most often end with the self pitying phrase," ...as i look my sef, I come say, 'Na me be dis?'...". This has been a chorus for me over the past three weeks, but on deeper reflection, I surmise it is the same for me and over a million others experiencing the Lagos madness.
I've been searching for lodgings but have been stonewalled at every turn, from insanely high rent prices to equally crazy reasons of landlords not wanting to give their apartments to single Young men.
Well I hope to come out of the slump soon (When my employers decide to 'step up').
Then the other side of my life, the Job. I have grown in leaps and bounds thanks to an editor who diligently air brushes my work and has me smelling nice(I don dey even get fan base).Through my various assignments, I've been able to build a network of friends, colleagues, art afficionadoes, enemies...and my development has been good but according to some critics, I lack the dedication to actively carry off making masterpiecies my stock in trade. I agree, but a slow start helps me gather my wits and when I move, Hmmmmmmmmmm.........
Okay, thats about it but my love life is driving me nuts, You love someone who stays aloof and then someone else loves you desperately... Me I want to get married, but I need someone...,
just had a thot, my list is too long, so I'm gonna stick to being the best friend and lover I'm capable of being!
So this me at it again...I'm back again!again.

What's love got to do with it?

You must understand
Though the touch of your hand
Makes my pulse react
That its only the thrill
Of boy meeting girl
Opposites attract
Its physical
Only logical
You must try to ignore
That it means more than that

Ironic lyrics by Tina Turner,It seems to be the mindset these days as Guys and Girls get down.
Even though I am still going through stuff I still believe it's not all about sex.I met a pleasant lady the other day and we conversed and conversed and ...
conversed some more. She was hot... no doubt, but being your traditional hold hands first to hug to first kiss then... kind of guy, I wasn't looking to lay or be laid.
When we met again she seemed offended by my chivalry, trust me not to 'slack', bottomline -we...
But when we became good friends, I had the audacity to ask why she was adamant about sex?
"well, whats the essence of meeting a guy and you fill the frisson and you don't satisfy it, immediately?"
Whatever happened to long lasting relationships that develope over time I asked?
"Oh boy don't even go there, its overated... love ke?" whats love got to do with good hot sex?
I agree(afterall its my personal opinion that that part of the female anatomy is the world's best creation )
I wondered why we won't go about it the right way and have better relationships.

Hmmmmmmmmm part 2

Hey folks,
Here I was the week before last in my lovely J-town, as best man or grooms best pal or whatever they call it these days. I was pretty apprehensive as it was my first ever assignment in this capacity.
I arrived Jos spent having missed my Thursday flight I spent the whole day on the road and when the trip commenced from Abuja we had a couple of challenges and ended up in Jos at 2AM, we could'nt get in till Friday morning.
I spent the nite in the bus in good company(even though the transport company provided good accommodation-rare these days!)of the driver and some canned star accompanied by hotly peppered suya.
Friday morning I hooked up with the lady that has my heart but still puts me through gruesome torture after the hug and kiss(e sweet sha!)I followed her to her designers place to berate him for the delay with her gown.
Any way I hooked prayed all night in support of my pal and turned up looking like a heavy hitter(a lot of people asked who I was).Trust former J-town boy, I looked pristine and even though there was a clashing of angels cymbals in my head I managed to suvive and not drop the couples rings.
The reception was good and I supported my pal dancing like a typical Jarawa dude(If know them they are so energetic)and I had a good laugh after the thanksgiving service the next day when I overheard my Lady(She was the chief bridesmaid) gisting a pal how another babe approached to ask for my contact details, even though she was calm on the exterior I could imagine...
Later after we had settled down to a few glasses of wine and I asked her what she told the lady who asked for my contacts and she goes " She thought she had a catch, but I told her to ask the groom. I'm sure when she got her answer, thats why she vamoosed sharply"
I felt so good that my babe still had such passion for me, I thought it was waning...

Falling...

Guess this title will spark some curiousity?
I'm in love and its soooooo painful.
I've been with the same person for eight years, longer than most marriages.
Right now we are in a process of growth that includes some stark truths,
but no matter,
It hurts...
Hoping I'll get over it soon before.....

Uhhh Yeah

Hey Peeps,
Wats Gwan? Been absent for a while.
This is for my friends- I mean the real ones, who have the guts and goodwill to tell me when I'm f..king up.
There are a couple and well, those who''ll read this would find their niche and know themselves.
to you who has been most true, I pray that i'll always be there for you.
To you who has laughed at me and let me see my situation from your eyes, I am here 'cos of you.
to the naysayers, I'm riding the waves, ain't I?
To you,who extended a hand of friendship and later felt I was not the kind to habit your world,I'm glad I got a glimpse of your heart.
To you who loves me deeply,but cannot love me enough,Thank you, I do love you.
To you who I love and have hurt...
you have taught me the fallacy of the human heart and hope your revenge gladens your heart.
Finally,to you that I have given my heart to...
I'll do it again no matter how it hurts.

Friday

I am Nigerian and loving it daily.
Funny it seems when you are down thats when loved ones say hurtful things.
crazy how things get from all clear and concise to fuzzy and stark.
well, I'm undergoing a most visible transformation and the good part is I am repositioning myself and building on my strengths. Downside, losing 'friends'.
Got a new swagger, shed some weight and getting into my work.
I had my first assignment outside Lagos, stressful, yes , but fulfilling and definitely what i'll do again.
Right now, I'm at the office, its my day off but I feel so full of stuff that I want to let out.
So I'll get back you' sometime...

I thought...

I thought we were friends...
Thought there was more...
Thought I was special just as you are to me...
Thought I...
I'll be waiting...
I did not know I was just a conquest,
Hope you are satisfied?
Let me know when you feel we are pals again.

FOOLISH

You know how it is when you say something without thinking, words do not break bones but used wrongly could lead to that. This is for that friend that I've annoyed, you know who you are, I was wrong and no matter, I should have thought before shooting and see where it got me. So hope you consider this one of those things that strenghten friendships and hope you don't hold this against me.Waiting...

zzzzzzzzzzzz

Its funny how one goes from hero to villain.In the blink of an eye. I smile but sincerely it ain't funny. For you my friend,I'll be here whenever...